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  Carts on both ends of the farmersmarket

  by Still Totally ADD in

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  2. friends

  my wife and me have a booth at the local framers market.

  there is usually about 12 t0 14 vendors each week on a small short street in town.

  what is funny on each end of this short street are cart setups with 3 people on each cart.

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  cha ching

  Sounds cool! It would be fun to watch!
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  Do KHs lock their doors when meeting starts now?

  by NikL in

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  2. friends

  my still in wife informed me this morning that she must be on time to the meeting as they are locking the door when it starts now.. i said that's crazy.

  she said it's because of the times we are living in.. we live in a rural area and crime isn't terrible though it's worse than it used to be.. i told her if that's the way it is then why bother leaving the house at all?.

  she said they are just trying to be safe.. is this a thing now?

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  cha ching

  I thought that maybe it was to keep apostates out?
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  Advice on my JW Mother

  by InjusticeSystem in

  1. social
  2. family

  i need the advice of those of you who are exjw's on what to do about my still in mother.

  briefly, here's the situation: i am a born-in, never got baptised (thank the fsm), became an athiest about 2015 but haven't come out to anyone but my wife and some trusted friends.

  my mother was raised in the society and is a true believer, but was never as strict about it as some parents are when i was growing up.

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  cha ching

  What a tough choice!

  For the best possibility of helping her, though, I would think that the more she sees you, does things with you and your family, the easier it would be for her to 'come back to you' and 'leave the Borg' if she 'woke up.' Right?

  If I was "the mom", and my son kept close to me, talked with me even though "I returned to the evil", I wouldn't feel bad leaving WT in the future, and admitting it to my son, because he was always there for me as a friend, even though I had 'returned.'

  If you don't lock her out, and then she blocks you (in the future) you won't have any question of "What if I had......?"

  She might draw the line in the sand, who knows?

  Until then, you have your best chance to help her out. She wants friends, she wants things to do. If something happens in the org, or to her to change her mind, you will be there.

  On the other hand, I know how you feel when things are hypocritical. It's hard. I hate injustice too.

  Personally, getting her involved in other things (hikes? bike rides? beach trips? lake? river? dancing? BBQs? going to the movies? a concert? playing games at your house, fun stuff) might help her see that "the Borg" is not the best way to have fun, and that there is life outside of the organization. Plus, she will have less indoctrination. (try to take her on a Sunday or a "Tuesday night", etc. )

  Good luck, let us know

  chaching
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  Article: Philadelphia Inquirer - Ex-Jehovah’s Witnesses to protest sex abuse scandals at Pa. convention

  by AndersonsInfo in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  http://www2.philly.com/philly/news/jehovahs-witnesses-child-sex-abuse-protest-reading-chessa-manion-20180824.html.

  ex-jehovah’s witnesses to protest sex abuse scandals at pa. convention.

  by david gambacorta, posted: 2 hours ago .

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  cha ching

  What Flipper is saying, and I watched the WT video also, was:

  1. Destroy any 'extra evidence'... like notes, phone records, letters, anything that can be used in court as evidence to support what happened.

  2. They are not telling them "destroy the fact that they were DFd" (although I would say that they try to hide WHAT they were DF'd for, by saying something like: "Oh, he stole something from a store (which they DID do), or they were smoking (which they did) or "they got drunk" (which they did) and then not mention that the person also molested a child.... After all, they are now 'disfellowshipped.'

  Like Flipper said, they do not trust the rank and file, or 'elders' to keep things secret. What if a wife found a notebook in her home, and read the notes about an abuser? WT does not want elders to keep any personal notes or evidence.

  WT does have a good knack for 'hinting' at what they realllly want people to do without realllly saying it. I am sure some elders will take the 'destroy all evidence' to the next level.
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  What is the number 3 talk?

  by carla in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i was enjoying the funny memes thread https://www.jehovahs-witness.com/topic/4796195022045184/funny-ex-jw-memes.

  but what is the number 3 talk?

  there were a few references to that particular talk.

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  cha ching

  I use to try to explain how stinkin' hard it was to do these number 3 & #4 talks to my husband. He just could NOT understand why it was so hard! I use to have nightmares trying to think of a 'setting' that would seem so 'normal'.

  My sister & I were laughing.... Your talk is on the 70 weeks of years.. You go to your Bible Study's house, and they are talking about planting 70 irises in their garden... "Seventy?", you say.... "That reminds me, have you ever heard of the 70 weeks of years?"

  Notice how many men (not) are commenting on this thread?
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  What is the number 3 talk?

  by carla in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i was enjoying the funny memes thread https://www.jehovahs-witness.com/topic/4796195022045184/funny-ex-jw-memes.

  but what is the number 3 talk?

  there were a few references to that particular talk.

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  cha ching

  I kinda wish I was still in.... I would have so much fun doing "talks"!

  I think I would just read all the scriptures to my 'householder' (haha!) and just say at the end, "so, do you understand?" she would reply "yes" and we'd walk off the stage! It seems like a Monte Python fun time!
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  What JW habits do you still have?

  by Exelder in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  since leaving the jw's after over 4 decades, i can see exactly what it is and hate everything it stands for.

  however, there are still some jw habits and traits that i can't get rid of:.

  1. i can't swear in general conversation (i'd have to be really angry).

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  cha ching

  The ONE thing that dies hard in me???? HIGHLIGHTING!!!!! I can't stop, haha!
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  Donated Jewelry -- where is it sold?

  by anon123 in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  not really sure in what forum this topic belongs -- trying to find out where kh or other jw org sells the jewelry that is donated to it..

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  cha ching

  It always made my shoulders twinge, and my head cringe when it was read from the stage that we could donate "cash, jewelry or other valuable personal property".. It lowered the dignity I gave them.... they seemed like "money grabbers".....
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  Questions for the Teaching of "Jehovah's Witnesses"

  by Sergey Antonov in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  it would be interesting to know what prompted you to leave the organization?

  what questions did the elders fail to answer?

  (maybe there is already a similar discussion, i apologize in advance)..

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  cha ching

  Good one, CHOOK, I never thought of it that way..... " blood on their hands for " going beyond the things that are written"
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  What is the current pulse in the organization with the reductions?

  by SouthCentral in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have not seen jehovah’s witnesses in my neighborhood for several years now.

  it appears that the cart witnessing has taken over.

  congregations are being consolidated and witnesses are being forced to travel a greater distance than before.the burdens/privileges of elders seem to be ever increasing!.

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  cha ching

  I wonder if you'd get "reproved" ... and eventually "get a marking talk" if you made one of your OWN carts and sat by it?

  No rebellious, independent witnessing, right?